Awards Do Not Define You or Your Brand

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What do you do when you’re NOT chosen for the 40 under Forty? Or if you didn’t get recognition in your community or network? What do you do when you DON’T win any awards? What do you do, when you DON’T get get the recognition you desire and maybe even deserve? How do feel?

Well, first, do you even want an award or recognition? If no, then don’t worry about it. Maybe you don’t care. Maybe you do, but it isn’t as important to you as your message or your passion.

Second, ask yourself if you are really doing all you can for yourself, your brand and your company to even be thought of for those awards? Are you blogging regularly? Are you submit your product or info to magazines and media? Are you reaching for the goals or sitting back and waiting for those things you desire to come to you?

Are you building your brand to get awards? Well, turn around because you won’t get one that way. Are you speaking at events and things to get noticed? Well, guess what, the opposite will happen.

Nothing happens without the work.

However, there are times when you honestly and truly doing all you can and no one, no company, no group gives you one of those lofty awards, or titles to add to your name to fame.

Does that make your brand LESS of a brand? Does that make YOU less of a person? The answer is a resounding NO!

Many times we get caught up in the comparative trap. We see someone else getting an award and we feel inadequate. Yet, however, when we step back and take another look we might realize, that we didn’t even really want it, until someone else got it and we didn’t.

I remember a story my friend Scott told me about his little girl who was in a toddler pageant. She smiled and oohed and ahhhed the judges and crowd. Everyone loved her. The next set of toddlers came up and did their thing too. Then the judges handed out awards. When she saw other little girls got awards but she didn’t her father said “Honey, that isn’t even your age group. You weren’t even available for that award.”

The moral of the toddler story is that sometimes we are upset about not getting recognition but we weren’t even in the same classification or at times, didn’t even perform to get one!!

Lastly, I want you to understand that for one thing, you don’t get an award by wanting an award. You don’t get recognition by wanting it. They don’t just land in your lap.

Like I said before, Nothing happens without the work.

Added to that however, is, even if you work hard and strive far and are diligent and determined and have a strong brand, a good Twitter Following, and a Great Online and Social Media presence, none of those things will get you recognition.

You may NEVER get that recognition.

Some people get that because of WHO they know, maybe they go to Every Social Outing in town, maybe they have been in the business longer than you. Maybe, out of all the talent in the area, maybe you just fell under the radar.

It happens.

What I want to impress upon is is that none of that matters.

Be who you are because you are being real, authentic and unique. Build your brand they way YOU want to, not because you are trying to get noticed. Share your story, your thoughts, your ideas, because you want to enrich or help the lives of others.

Ask yourself…Why do I do the things I do?

I will bet it is out of a passion or love for what you are trying to build or share.

Stay on that path.

Worry less about the others who are in the limelight.

Be the best you, that you can be.

Build the best brand you can.

Be Fabulous!

Xoxo, Trisha Trixie

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HERE’S HOW TO SEE YOUR RETURN ON INVESTMENT PER SHOW/VENUE      

A great way to track this is to either give something out for each show with a sticker or label that says what show it is for and then when they call, you can ask which show by looking at the item. This is called a lead.

Another great way is to get address labels and print about 25 at least for each show with the SHOW NAME on the label. Put them on your business cards and then the same thing applies. When they say they have your card, you can ask “What does the label on your card say?”. Then let’s say you did this for the Designer show it would say “Designer”. Then you could track how many sales you got from that event, venue or etc. You can label them however you want, per venue, per event it’s up to you. My business mentor has me do this so I know which venue and show to spend money on in the coming months and years. If you can track success per venues or shows, then you know which ones to attend over and over and which ones to steer clear from.

You can also get leads by having a drawing etc. On the drawing slips, put the labels on the slips to track your leads per show or venue that way! When you get home, you can add everyone into Excel or other system for future leads.

If you see no sales or leads from a venue or show a few times, then you know not to do that show the next time. Versus if you see great sales or leads, then you can see “Well, I didn’t get any sales, but look at all the leads I got” then you can see how it balances out.

Sales “DAY OF” a show are not a god estimation for every brand. Some people have to think about spending $100 on an apron or a blanket or purse or even jewelry before they buy.

According to Ed Jones, president of Constellation Communications, there is far more gained through marketing than just adding new leads to the sales pipeline

Four components to [VENDORS] return on investment and revenue impact:

  1. New revenue development (near or long term); (Sales Day Of a Show vs Sales Long Term)
  2. Customer and partner relationship management; (Did you network with other vendors, learn new tricks, tips and trades, did you meet new people who will buy from you again)
  3. Retention and growth of current revenue, which includes profitability improvement and cost savings achieved through event-related activities; (Did any of your regular customers come see you, did you make new long term customers, did the event bring in more sales and leads for you?)
  4. Promotion value, accomplished through event activity. (Did you do things to help promote you at the show, like drawings, giveaways, engagement?)
  5. (I would like to add one here)- Engagement- As in standing up, talking to each customer, telling them about you, your brand and your sales? Were you able to engage with each and every person who came by your booth?

I added that last one as a reminder to us all that to have a truly successful show we MUST engage with the show attendees. You might have a hoarse voice at the end of the night, and may sound like a broken record, but I can tell you from experience, it really DOES make a difference to STAND UP, not hide behind the booth, and engage and talk to each and every person as much as you did the FIRST person who walks up to your booth.

I hope this helps you all out and I look forward to working with you in the future on other shows.

Hosting Your Own Vendor Show

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I could go on and on and tell you all the many ways to run a show. I could tell you how I run a show. But the reality is, I don’t think anyone can truly tell you. You have to read up, get a booklet or word document and write down thoughts and ideas from things you read, videos you watch and other event planners. Eventually, you get into your own drift and mode of how YOU handle each show. Plus, there are so many ins and outs depending on what type of show you are planning.

Planning an Expo, go one way. Planning a craft show, go another and so on. Each show has it’s OWN needs, has it’s own TICKS, so it is hard to say

“Plan a show this way”

That doesn’t really work.

You have to do the work.

You have to search things out. You have to see what others are doing. You may have to watch videos. You may have to help someone else do a show to fully understand, and even then, there will be things that you still don’t know, questions you may ned to ask and so on.

All I can do is tell you a few things I do and maybe it will help you along in the right direction. From there I have found some links for you to look at. This way, I have don “some” of the legwork for you and you can click on the links and see what each of these websites have to say. I would get a notebook or have Word opened on another screen or tab and take notes as you go along.

My Vendor Shows are Showcases. I have them themed, I always have entertainment, and I generally give a little gift to each vendor. These things set me apart from the rest.

The first and foremost thing I can say is getting everything in writing or digitally signed at least. For you, for the venues, for your vendors etc. Pay your venue fee up front, so you are not hit with a blammo miscommunication like I just did on my last show. I was expecting $50 for the whole day only to find AFTER the show it was $50 an hour.

#LessonsLearned

For the TOOLS:

I use Google Drive. I love it’s functionality and how it helps me keep everything organized

 https://www.google.com/drive/

I mostly use Google Forms, to put my Vendor Application Online and I tell them right away it is an interest form AND a contract. Then I have them date and sign it digitally. Then forms has a response sheet they supply once people fill out the forms. I keep track of each vendor that applied on this form. This way I can see who filled out the form, what their business is, what category their business is.

Here is what I put on my form:

2015 Vendor Form

Please understand this IS an Interest form AND a Contract! Make sure to check your SPAM or JUNK Mail folder for a reply email from me within 24 hours of filling out this form. I check emails and payments every morning BEFORE NOON. I will not email you again for info or payment. If you do not fill out items on this form, I will assume you meant it to be blank. After payment, you have 24 hours to pay once I send you the link.. If you miss it because it was in your JUNK/SPAM email, then you missed out. IT IS UP TO YOU TO CHECK THOSE FOLDERS.
Once you sign and date it below you are agreeing and confirming of your interest and contract to the shows you state. You understand it is as much YOUR responsibility to SHARE the event, Invite others and PROMOTE the event as much as it is mine! It takes a village to raise a child and a village to produce a successful show!Another email will follow with payment information via Square for your CC. No checks. No Paypal. Some Debit Cards can be used as CC.

If for an upcoming show – Payment is due IMMEDIATELY for any shows you are interested in. If you are not prepared to make payment NOW, please wait to fill out the form until that time. No spots are held on word. Spots are held on payment.

DO NOT FILL OUT IF YOU ARE NOT READY TO PAY “RIGHT NOW” FOR UPCOMING SHOW

If you are filling this form out as Interest ONLY, please state INTEREST IN FUTURE SHOWS and no payment will be required until notified about that show.

NO SPOTS ARE CONFIRMED OR HELD UNTIL PAYMENT HAS BEEN GIVEN AND RECEIVED. IT IS IMPERATIVE TO YOU TO PAY AS SOON AS YOU ARE GIVEN PAYMENT LINK. IF YOU DO NOT DO SO IN 24 HOURS, YOUR SPOT WILL BE GIVEN TO THE NEXT REPRESENTATIVE OR FOR ANOTHER VENDOR.

The information requested on this form not only helps me, but is designed to help promote YOU as well. If you do not fill out your WEB LINK, FACEBOOK PAGE, ETSY LINK OR OTHER WEB LINK, I have nothing to promote you with except your name. If that does not matter to you, then leave blank. HOWEVER, those who DO leave that information will be promoted on the EVENT page. If you leave something not filled out, I will assume you meant it to be that way.

* Required
What is your Business Name or What Brand are you Representing? *
If you own your own business list here or tell me what you are selling?
What Category is your brand? *
Please list what type of items these are or service: Makeup, Jewelery, Performer, etc..
What is YOUR name? *
Enter your First and Last Name
Contact Email where you can be reached? *
Enter your email
Contact Phone # you can be reached? *
Enter a valid phone number
What is your website url? *
Please enter the Link of your website, Etsy Link, or other link you choose?
If you have a Facebook Page, please enter link here *
Enter FB Link or none
Do you agree you are authorized representative of the exhibiting company and understand there is no refund or exchanges and agree to the terms of this form, understanding it is a contract and agree and you further understand that by signing this contract you also understand once payment has been made no refunds or retrurns are given? *
  • Yes
  • No
Which Show is this for? or is this INTEREST ONLY? *
Please state which Show you are filling this form out for so we can best get back to you
Please Type your Full Name Below and Date confirming your agreement to this Contract *
Sign Below NAME AND DATE ON SAME LINE
Do you have any special requests? If so, please tell me NOW, not the day of or right before the event. Thank you. *
If you need to be in a corner or against a wall, please tell me now. If you need against a wall, please tell me now. If you need other special request, please tell me now. ANY OTHER SPECIAL REQUESTS TELL ME NOW
Then they submit it. The responses go into my response folder. Under TOOLS, on the responses you can edit notifications. So then whenever someone submits a form, you get notified right then, or daily.
I like this because then I don’t have to keep watch on it or have the risk of forgetting to look. It will tell me. On the Form part, you can also change the destination teh responses go to, in the event you want them added to a set of documents or sheets you already have. The responses come through like an excel spreadsheet so it is VERY easy to manage.
I also use Google Sheets. Once I have the form responses, in that workbook, I make another tab called Leads, where I ass any leads I have like Business name or Person name, Name of business, category, email and phone number. My other tab is called Marketing. In it I have all the media places I need to send out my Press releases to or sites I need to fill out forms about my show. The third tab is called Venue Locations and this is where I keep all the info about Venues I have looked up. The date, Name of Venue, POC (Point of Contact) , Space (Sq Feet) VEndor allotment (How much can each vendor have for each location, Touchbase, the date I called or touchbased with them, and any misc info needed for that venue. I have a GROUPS tab, with all the Fb groups for Vendor leads and promotions I have in that one tab so I don’t have to go searching for it on Facebook.
Vendor Maps are done on Google Drawing. I generally go into the venue once decided and get actual pictures of the site. I take a tape measure and masking tape and mark the areas where each vendor will be. Then I take pictures of that. Then pull up tape and go to Google Drawing. First I make a drawing of the area as it is now. Just in case it is in a cafe or something where you might have to put everything back they way you found it. If you take pictures and draw up a map, it makes the next part much easier. Then I save that drawing. Copy it, then Rename it to Vendor Map (and the name of the location) Then map out your vendors. Once you have everything mapped out, send it to your vendors with a little note about it and leave room for it to be subject to change. Some vendors will see it and ask you if they can move. Believe me, it is better if they tell you that before the day of. Makes is much less of a headache.
 The other thing I like about Google Drive is the fact that you can also make folders. I have more than one business so this is nice to keep it separated. Plus anything that is under the folders anyone you are sharing the folder with, can see and view the files under it. Make it again, much less of a hassle.
I write up Press Release to send out to the media and try to get that out no more than two weeks out before the event. Too early and they won’t post it, too late is not enough time. You might research how to write press releases if you don’t know. Media outlets are VERY specific about this and want it done a certain way. They don’t just want emails. They want an email with a press release.
Two weeks out also give them time to decide if they want you to come talk on TV or on radio about your event. If you don’t like to talk, you might hire or get an unpaid intern from a college to be your PR person.
So far I have only talked about prep. Before the show kind of things.
Day of show is about getting in early, Putting up road signs (dont forget to make GOOD LOOKING road signs on poster board and markers….name of location, VEndor Show, time and address) , setting up the tables, putting up decorations( if you have any), setting out gift bags for vendors (if you want to do that) having each vendors name on the tables they are going to, or everyone has a map at the door and then they set up. Make sure in one of your original emails to the vendors to not bring more than they can put up or take down in one hour. I have had times I stand there for hours waiting for someone to pack ALL their things. You have to stay until the last vendor leaves. Then clean up your area and put things away. Say goodbye to the venue contact, then go have a drink or whatever you need to relax because after a vendor show, you will want to kick your feet up.
I am sure I am missing something and there is SO much more I could tell you. But as I said before, it all depends. It depends on a set of variables that you have to define to hold a great show.
Most of all, no matter what smile, be professional about anything or any drama that may happen. You don’t want to burn bridges if you can help it. Don’t piss off vendors. I tell my vendors they cannot leave early unless they discuss it with me, in my emails. Then if a vendor starts packing up I ask them to stay, but some are just determined to go. There is nothing you can do about that.
Remind them also in emails, success of a show is not just what amount you have sold or make that day of the show. Have cards with a label for each show to track when someone calls back, which show they got your card or info from. They can track all that in Excel or other data so then they can add sales of show, with callback sales. Sometimes shows are just about getting leads and you won’t make or get to make any sales. But what leads you get out of it, may be worth more in the long run. It is jsut a fact that sometimes people have to think about a purchase before they buy. They take your card and call you later. It happens to Direct Sales, MLM and even crafter and Designers.
As I said, I am sure I am missing something. I am always willing to help answer any questions and make this a more cohesive list and info for you.
Being a Vendor Planner is a love hate relationship.
I love the money I make. I love having a unique and different show for other vendors. I love the Press and Media things I get to do because of it. But, I hate it because vendors ca get snarky, venue locations aren’t always up front, and things often go wrong no matter how hard you try.
But all in all, it can be very rewarding and worth it.
Try your hand at it only if you are thick skinned, have a strong will, don’t let people walk all over you, and you enjoy chaos and stress. :)
Or if you just want to try it out. Just be ready and be prepared.
 Hopefully the links I have added with help you out…
Until next time,
XOXO Trisha Trixie

 http://www.handmadeology.com/the-ultimate-craft-show-preparation-link-list/

Tips for Organizing a Successful Small Vendor Show –http://cobwebcornerblog.blogspot.com/2010/10/tips-for-organizinging-successful-small.html

http://cobwebcornerblog.blogspot.com/2009/02/so-you-want-to-do-show-part-1.htm

The Complete Guide To Vendor Event Success for Direct Sellers and Small Biz Owners http://milliondollarpartygirl.com/10/how-to-get-better-results-at-vendor-events/ 

From WAHM http://www.wahm.com/forum/party-plans-50/173591-hosting-your-own-vendor-fair.html 

6 Basic Principles for Organizing an Art and Craft Event http://meylah.com/meylah/6-basic-principles-for-organizing-an-art-and-craft-event

Successful Vendor Event?

http://www.ptotoday.com/boards/17-fundraising/153824-successful-vendor-event

How to Organize a Craft Show https://blog.etsy.com/en/2010/how-to-organize-a-craft-show-with-handmademn/

How can I organize a successful vendor/craft fair with 0 experience? https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20120718172710AAdoxIX

how to organize a craft fair? http://community.babycenter.com/post/a40832302/how_to_organize_a_craft_fair

Help! I’m organizing a vendor fair…

http://www.chefsuccess.com/threads/help-im-organizing-a-vendor-fair.61352/

Organizing a Fair, Festival or Event http://festivalsandevents.com/festival-planning/Organizing.shtml

Here are some EVent Checklist that also may help you out

https://www.chass.ncsu.edu/documents/CHASSEventChecklist.pdf

Generic Event Planning Checklist http://www.smu.edu/~/media/Site/StudentAffairs/StudentActivities/OrganizationsResources/Generic%20Event%20Planning%20Checklist.ashx

Event Planning Checklist http://www.fundlist.info/images/3-13event_planning.pdf

Event Planning Checklist http://clarkson.edu/campus_life/clubs/student_life/docs/eventplanningchecklist.pdf

Items to give to your vendors

http://www.julieannart.com/2013/05/printable-craft-show-checklist.html

http://www.funkyfinds.com/events/craft-show-tips.html

https://brittanysbest.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/04/Craft-Show-Checklist.pdf

http://www.julieannart.com/2013/05/printable-craft-show-checklist.html

Trixie Tabloids: Vendor Show Lessons

“If they didn’t put it in the form, their loss. So thanks. I am sure all the other vendors I would have been able to help promote their business thank you.”

Sadly, I think not. But I DO have boundaries and I have to draw the line somewhere. This was a snippet of an email I had to recently send out to a vendor for a show I was planning. For my shows I have a Universal Form that each vendor must fill out. This is used for a myriad of things of which I will explain:

Recently I had an issue with a gal who did not give me any link at all. I asked for her link and she only gave me the NAME of her Business and told me where to go find it. I replied I did not have time for that and needed HER to give ME the link. Sadly her response was rude and disrespectful and I ended up giving her money back and removing her from the show. Which was harmful to HER not ME because she even told me she was just starting out and did not have anything on her Etsy page yet and had no Facebook page. Had she just entered her Etsy page in the link, I would not have had to go back and forth to try and chase down this information from her. We would not have had this exchange and she would have received promotion on the event page and been able to be at the show to make some money. Her loss, all the way around.

Lesson Learned: I now will no longer chase after vendors trying to get this type of information from them nor other things that might be needed. If they don’t give it to me. OH well. Their loss. I hate to be that way, but I also hate and will NOT tolerate rude or disrespectful behavior from others.  The Vendor List helps me keep track of each vendor and information to help promote them. I actually had to ask this from 4 vendors and luckily the others were obliging. But of course, there had to be one i the mix who now has ruined it for all. Lessons Learned. Thank you Universe.

Lesson Learned: I will no longer chase after payments. If they miss their 24 hour window to pay, I move on. This lesson came because I also had to chase down payments from some people and I now will no longer do that either. If they don’t pay when I send them the link, their loss. It is not my fault the email is in their spam folder and they don’t know to go check it. Lessons Learned. Thank you Universe.

So why do I need the form? Let me explain below:

  • Business Name: This helps in the event that two or more distributors from the same company ask to join my show. Since only one distributor from an MLM or DS (Multi Level Marketing/ Direct Sales) company can be at a show I have to make sure I don’t double book. With this list I can go through the list and pick the first , let’s say Younique, distributor and give them a chance for payment of the show. If that person opts out or doesn’t pay, then I go to the NEXT Younique or MLM/DS vendor, and so on.
  • Which Show: The list allows me sort my shows by the Data/Sort Range function. Since I do multiple shows, I can sort and see how many vendors I have as a running total each time I sort. Again, so I don’t over book. My upcoming shows only will fit enough for 20 Vendors. If I did not keep track somehow, I could end up booking 40 vendors for one show and then I would have no space. Which then would result in a lot of upset vendors and thus looking bad for me and my business.
  • Category: This also allows me to see each category of the vendors applying. Planners try very hard not to book too many of the same TYPE of vendor. When guests comes to these shows they expect a variety, so I wouldn’t want to end up booking all 20 as Jewelry. By seeing this category I can make sure I don’t do that.
  • Basic Info: I ask for their name, email, phone so I know who they are and so I can reach them if there are any issues. I can’t tell you how many times this has been useful. Mainly the phone, which people hate to give you. I have had to use that phone number , however, MANY times to call a vendor to ask where they were when they were late or did not show up for a show. It is also useful however, in case a payment is lost or for us to converse to answer any questions the vendor may have. This is just basic info but extremely useful and helpful.
  • Web Link, Etsy and Facebook Page: Now to the part that seems to be the one the Vendors perhaps do not understand. I ask for their website, Etsy link or other link and if they have a Facebook page to add that link as well. The purpose of this is a SERVICE I DO FOR THE VENDOR. It is to help promote them and their business. If they do not fill it out, they miss out.
  • Special Requests:  Too many times I would plan out where vendors go and the day they get there, they end up telling me they need a wall or corner space. This helps me know ahead of time so I can plan it out and give everyone what they need or as close to it as possible. Plus lately I have had a few Wheelchair requests and that is important to know, so I can make things accessible for them.
  • Signature: They  must type their name and date in teh line. Since this is an online form, when they do that is lets me know they have read and understand the rules. Of course, you still will have vendors who shrug their shoulders at you and say “I didn’t know”.

Note to Vendors: Please be considerate to Vendor Planners running a show. There is more than just finding a place and taking money. There is a lot of marketing, planning, Press releases, sending out emails to media, posting flyers, and tedious busy work as well as lots of promotion to ensure a good event, as well as other things that need to be done. Not  to mention the persons “normal” life they have to manage and run. We planners do the best we can to put on a successful show for you so that you can earn money, get sales and anything we may ask you to do in in desire to help everyone be successful.

Not that it matters, but to some it might….  I have over 40 vendors to deal with, plus those for new shows, the site to tend to, the vendor map to plan for people who asked for special requests, handle all the marketing, promotion, flyers, etc so we have good attendance, as well as MANY other tasks to handle, plus trying to sell my home, plan a wedding, plan a move, and tend to my business and a new StartUp Company. I was not mean or rude when telling the one gal, “I do not have time to go get her link” I was serious. Her response and attitude proved she does not respect another s time nor the effort it goes into planning shows.

If you want to see what it takes to plan a show, here is a Forum I found where they are discussing ALLLLLLLLLLLLLL the many things that go into a show. I bet you will be shocked! CLICK HERE FOR FORUM

I do 90% of what is on that list. Some are for other types of shows like wedding or bridal or larger shows, yet still, it is alot.

 For Vendors who might be interested to know “What do I bring or How to Prepare?” I found this checklist for you to maybe help you plan a little better. http://www.julieannart.com/2013/05/printable-craft-show-checklist.html

There are a lot more out there on both sides of the coin. If you want to, Google Vendor or Craft Show Checklist on the Vendor Side of thins. For Event Planners, Google Vendor or Event Planning Checklist.

Until Next Time,

XoXo Trisha Trixie

When given the option Fabulous

HashTaggery

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Did you know there are different Hashtags for every day of the week? Well, I knew there were some out there for specific days I wee all the time like #HumpDay and #ThrowbackThursday but I didn’t know there were SPECIFIC ones.

As I as looking for a Hash Tag for a blog post on my Personal Blog I found this post about Days of the week Hastags

http://www.digitaltrends.com/social-media/instagram-through-the-week-with-these-popular-hashtag-games/

I grabbed a few I think I am going to try this year and some oldies I am brigning back.

Here are the ones I am going to give it go for:

#MusicMonday – Share some music you like

#TrixieTuesday – Where I post something on my Business Blog from me

#WishCastingWednesday – This one I am bringing back. Even though Jamie Ridler doesn’t do teh prompts anymroe, I just feel like I need to reconnect to my WishCasting

#ThrowbackThursday – Post an old pic of you or something

#ThirstyThursday – Share a drink you are having or a place you are drinking

#FridayI’minLove – Share things or sites you are in love with

#FabulousFriday – Share all things Fabulous in your life. This can be a gratitude type of post too

#Caturday – Share pics of your cats

#SwitchoffSunday – Another one I am bringing back. This is when you keep your electronic life at bay and do things like READ or Go to events or play games.

#SundayFunday – This is one I may do – It is often one where someone is posting the things they are doing for Sunday, like Reading, etc or other things I mentioned.

No matter what your Hashtags of life are, the more you use the # Sign and Tag, whatever you decide, will generate traffic to the location you are tagging it from and could be good if you are trying to generate more traffic to your business.

Until Next Time,

XOXO #TrishaTrixie

It’s Time to Spread Your Wings: If you want to be Free, You Have to Fly

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You know how sometimes you surpass people in your life? It’s not like you don’t care or don’t love them anymore but you have moved on, you have grown beyond them or their ideals do not match with yours or you just realize that you are done, their purpose in your life has been fulfilled…

…well, this is how I feel about groups, E-course people and things of the like…

Sometimes, no matter how much we WANT to be connected to those groups or groups of people, we realize, we are not connecting with them or the leader anymore. They served their purpose and now it is time to move on, perhaps to another E-Course or group or perhaps onto your OWN.

It is hard, however to do, I realize, even as I sit here with a trigger finger asking myself “Am I ok with leaving this group and the people in it?” “Once I am out, I am out” I better MAKE SURE this is what I want to do….”Am I ready to spread my own wings?”

and what I came up with after careful contemplation is that “My time has past. That it IS just like moving on from people in our lives and allowing ourselves to grow and fly and spread our wings.

You have to. You just have to Spread Your Wings if you REALLY want to FLY.

I love this song from Queen that, to me, says it all…

Sammy was low
Just watching the show
Over and over again
Knew it was time
He’d made up his mind
To leave his dead life behind

Spread your wings and fly away
Fly away, far away
Spread your little wings and fly away
Fly away, far away
Pull yourself together
‘Cos you know you should do better
That’s because you’re a free man

Since he was small
Had no luck at all
Nothing came easy to him
Now it was time
He’d made up his mind
“This could be my last chance”

Spread your wings and fly away
Fly away, far away
Spread your little wings and fly away
Fly away, far away
Pull yourself together
‘Cos you know you should do better
That’s because you’re a free man

If you want to be Free, you have to Fly.

I don’t want to watch the show anymore. I don’t want to just sit back and enjoy it. I want to be IN the show. I want to be the MAIN EVENT. I want to be the name on the Marquee! I want to fly. It’s time to let go of the ledge and FLY.

It’s hard, I know.It’s scary to let go. You worry if you are doing the right thing. It is a big step to step off the ledge and put out your wings and fly. At first it does not come easy. At first flapping those wings is hard and you are flapping so hard you feel like you can barely breathe and your arms hurt and your body hurts and you think you just can’t do it anymore and then…

…all of a sudden…

…a big wind comes up under you and you take flight, your wings move freely with ease and it becomes fun, enjoyable and freeing.

You wonder to yourself “Why did I wait so long to do this? What was I so afraid of?”

You soar through the air with style and grace and when it is time to land for a break you come in with your feet firmly ready to hold on until you are ready to fly again.

This is my lesson to you today…

Don’t be afraid to spread your wings, because if you want to be free…

You have to fly…

Until Next time,

XOXO Trisha Trixie

What are ten signs that you might have what it takes to be a successful entrepreneur?

What are ten signs that you might have what it takes to be a successful entrepreneur? (Repost from Quora)

This was my answer I posted on the site below, reposted for you here today)

1- Be Driven
2-Be doing your dream full time (eat breath and sleep(or no sleep)
3-Realize the 80/20 rule. You will get to work on your dream 20 % and the “other stuff 80%” if that still appeals to you and you do it you are an entrepreneur
4-You keep doing it when it pays crap
5-You love what you do
6-You get excited when you talk about what do do to others
7-You have passion about what you do
8-You are not a wantprenuer meaning you are not just going thru the motions (getting website, logo, fb page the basics) you are actually doing it.
9-Given the option of making nothing doing your dream or making money for someone else you would still rather being doing your dream
10- This is your 24/7 life

Trixie Q & A: Everything (or close to) You Wanted to Know About Trisha Trixie

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Trixie Q&A

(I was schedule to do a Q & A for a YW Resource Center that then didn’t happenbut I had all the questions ready so I figured I would repost them here and answer them for YOU, my readers)

Your background (where you grew up, where you went to school,etc )

I am a transplant. Which if you haven’t ever heard that before means I came from somewhere else. But I am a unique transplant. I was born here, in Iowa but grew up in California. Then I became a gypsy (or so it felt) I moved back and forth in my adult life between Iowa and California a few times, and many other places as well. NYC, Colorado, Wyoming, Arizona, you name it. The last time I came back to Iowa was 2006 and I have been here since. Not sure when I will be leaving again, but I know I will. It is just in me to roam.

I grew up within walking distance from Disneyland. I had a pass to go in and as I got older going to a part of the park that had a dance area for teens was what I did as a teenager. I also wen to Angels games nearly every weekend as well. And by the way, to be clear they are called the ANAHEIM ANGELS, not the Los Angels Anaheim Angels. LOL

I went to junior high, high school and college in California. For my college I went to Brooke’s College for Design where I learned everything about design including but not limited to fashion. Fashion Design, Graphic Design, how to do Magazine Layouts, Logos and such, Interior Design, Multimedia Design, Websites, HTML, Dreamweaver, and as I said, Fashion, Art, Croqois, Fashion Illustrations, and Regular Art Classes and oddly enough my most favorite being Typography. 

The schooling was very expensive and my grants ran out so I left that school and got my AA at Long Beach City College and then went onto Irvine Valley College for further training in Adobe products and html coding.

After I was married awhile I also decided to be a Genealogist and got my Certification in Genealogy (Family Historian) so I went to BYU and did that for years. I specialized in Brick Wall Ancestry and also was a Transcriptions and Research Analyst. I can find things on Google you would be amazed! I wrote a local Column for awhile as well The Gen Tree Column and gave Tip and Tricks and even did Genealogy Classes and Talks. I was the youngest Genealogist on the the Genealogy Circuit only being 27 years of age at the time.

I left California when I was 19 and moved back to Iowa. then the true hardships began.

The hardships (The skeltons the family doesn’t want to hear about)

When I was 8 years old, I was molested by a family member, when I was 10 years old, my father passed away, when I was 14 someone tried to take advantage of me again, When I was 18 I was dated raped by someone I trusted, when I was 19 I got pregnant and seriously, I had NO clue how it happened, When I was 20 we got married because of the baby, after we were married his true colors came out, I tried to leave and join the military, this was in 91 when all the Saudi things were going on, I freaked out and felt like I was pregnant, but the Sergeant wouldn’t  test me, when I got home we found out I was exactly one month pregnant, the time I was in basic training, they sent me home on a psychological discharge meaning I could never get called up in the military again, had second baby, since my first pregnancy and labor was so horrific (life flights, blue face, heart rate down for baby,etc) they said since I was a model and so small my body was not ready to have kids and had me sign a paper that said if there were complications i the labor that I might come out with my tubes tied, the anesthesia didn’t take and the doctor had to shoot locals in my stomach so of course when I came out I asked  and find out that yep, tubes tied, all this for me and my first husband to fight constantly only to end with him strangling me and me walking away to save my life having to leave my kids, thus after him and his family committing me to a mental ward saying I was psycho and taking custody of my kids, when I got out of there I just knew I had to leave and went back to California to get my life together, thus fighting a ten year battle for custody of my kids only for them to be of teen years to back out saying they would stay where they were, only to have 6 months later my son get in trouble with the law and that is why I came back here to Iowa in 2006.

I know that was long winded and sounded like a lot. But sadly…that is only a SMALL portion of my life story.

Why did I want to tell you all that? Because I want to share with you that doctors asked me how I was still sane after that kind of life. My answer. I choose to be. Life is what you make it. I used to be fragile. Now I teach other women how to go from Fragile to Fabulous. I am currently working on an update to my e-course Be Fabulous “ How I went from Fragile to Fabulous”.

I want to inspire others and share my story and help others see , you CAN be happy. You CAN have a good life. You CAN be Fabulous. The choice is yours.

What led you to your current career

I always knew I loved Fashion and Designing since the movie Pretty in Pink when she tore those dresses apart, drew a small design and then made something else for herself. I used to do that with my room and clothes when I was in high school so I knew way back then I loved the element of design.

I like many people followed what others told me would be a good career. I worked in food service in high school, hostessing then waitressing. Going in circles in my life, or so I felt.

Then eventually became a manager at a restaurant. One day I was managing and the cash drawer was off and I got in trouble for it because I was manager, the restaurant had a lot of issues that night, and we had tons of calls of complaints.

I went home that night and thought “Why am I doing this? I am miserable. I hate this. I am not happy. I am doing this for my kids yet I feel like I am going nowhere”

So the next day, I gave my notice, they let me go early and I packed my bags and headed back to California.

What are your passions/ hobbies/ dreams/ special talents?

I love to dance, sing and model. I went to a school called The Colony in Calif where they taught you all these things. When I turned 18 I looked like I was 15 and my modeling agency asked me if I would model with some other girls for Teen and Seventeen magazine. I did a few car shows after that and a couple of Mall Runway events where  got free product. But that was it.

I did other things for awhile and when I moved back to Iowa at 21 I connected with another agency here in Iowa called Avant and was a Stivers Lincoln Mercury girl once, did an infomercial and a couple of low kewl photo shoots where I was an extra.

In what ways do your personal interests align with your career?

I love fashion. but I like creating my own style. I like to be different and creating couture fashionable aprons that look like dresses does that. When people say, this would make a cute dress, I beam with pride because to me that is the highest compliment anyone could give me.

What does your typical work day look like?

My typical work day is different every day but there are a very general guides I like to try to follow to help me be successful.

Mondays are Marketing Mondays. Reaching out to others, phone calls, emails, updating blogs online, updating websites and such. Generally do things to help market, advertise and brand myself and my company.

Tuesdays are Trixie Tuesdays. If I haven’t written my blog for this day then I get up early and do that. I have two blogs I put on on this day and I alternate between them. on my TrishaTrixie.com site where I sell and discuss my aprons I might have a how to Be Fabulous on this day or talk about something retro, vintage or old school.

My other blog Trixie Tabloids, Lessons Learned from a Fabulous Fashionista I discuss lessons I have learned along the way. I have had many people ask me to share my knowledge with them and instead of trying to find the masses I let the masses come to me to hear my lessons if they do desire.

These blogs and others I may write I repost onto other sites once I have published them so this also takes up time in my day. I copy the link and repost it to Google, Stumbleupon,Independent Fashion Bloggers. The posts automatically post to Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn so it gets out to those groups without me doing extra work.

Wednesdays are generally mine to do what I want with. Sometimes I run errands, sometimes like this week I was sewing like a maniac and gluing things and unleashing my creative side. From time to time I post a What Not Wednesday but that is up to me. 

Thursdays I generally go to network events. There are a few in Ankeny and other places that I attend and this helps me get out of the house and connect with others. Across the world everyone know Thursdays are Throwback Thursdays so I like to post a little picture of something Vintage or Retro. I means, this is Prime Time for a Retro girl!

Fridays are actually pointless, I mean seriously  who wants to work on Fridays. So I allow myself to be me. Whatever happens happens. That could be a hookie day or a work day or go run around day. So I have Fabulous Fridays! I try to have an uplifting Audio to send a little positive energy going out to my followers. There is a site called Audioboom. You can record audio and add an image. I like to do that and then post on Social Media. I also post in my Be Fabulous Private Group.

And then my weekend are mine and my hunnys. We currently are fixing up the house and do inside or outside work and on Sundays we have Switch off Sundays so we either play hobby board games or go for walks exploring different trails of DSM. We are getting married in 2015 (War and Swing Era theme at the WindPoint Lighthouse in Racine Wisconsin) so we are quite busy, but still make time for each other these days and our date night Wednesdays.

(Adjustment to this since  wrote it. I now have a fabulous assistant who is my Social Media Manger and handles a great percentage of this for me. I still write a great deal of the time, however she writes on Facebook and on the blog as well. I wanted to give a shout out and make sure you know there are no TWO HEADS writing on http://www.trishatrixie.com and Facebook and I am no longer a one woman show. )

What do you like most about your career? What do you like least about your career?

I love that it is mine. My own. My business. I get to make the decisions. Good or bad. I am not making some company money earning the “almighty dollar” for them and getting nothing in return.

What I like least is the struggle at times. Being an entrepreneur is hard. Many people think I sit around in my jammies all day. I do not. I still have a house to take care of, create things and work hard to make my businesses successful. I get up at 630 every morning and make breakfast and start my day with my sweeties then send him on his way. Then I get cracking. He comes off and gets to leave work at work. I may still be sewing or creating and take a break long enough to make dinner, do dishes and spend some times with him. Luckily my kids are grown and older and out of the house. Even luckier is that my fiance’ likes to play video games so we get our own times at night. He plays games, I generally go back to work. I have to tell myself to rest or if I work too hard my body tells me to stop and then I have to listen.

Why is that important? I have arthritis, I have lower lumbar problems i my L2,3,4 and l5 vertebrae, I get severe migraines. I am in pain of some form or the other all the time. BUT, I do not let that stop me. I have made the decision that I can’t allow that to rule my life. My family all groaned and moaned my whole life about some ailment or the other and I couldn’t stand how that stopped them from living the life they wanted. I decided I would keep doing what I love until I couldn’t’ do it anymore and if that ever really happens then I promised to do things like this and talk to others and reach out to help inspire and encourage others to follow their dreams too.

Do you have internship opportunities at your agency? What is an internship?

I am always looking for interns. But because I am a small LLC, Sole Proprietorship business I rarely can pay anyone. I generally hire interns from schools and colleges who are looking for hours for their work study or coursework or someone who is wanting the experience. That is their pay. When I have it, I pay them or give them things they want from my line, aprons, fascinators, etc. From time to time I have paid interns/assistants but actually I connected better with those who are trying to earn it through hours because they work harder. However, I have found this is not always the case. It is amazing when you find that RARE individual or tribe that beleives in you, supports you and wants to see you succeed. I have this little tribe of people called The Trixe Tribe. They are a small handle of people, less than a handful who are always cheering me on, helping me here and there, and rarely ask for anything. I send them a fascinator, an apron, one I feed Ice cream sandwiches (that’s literally all the boy wants) , and one I buy her daughter (who is my mini intern, upcoming entrepreneur little coloring princess sticker books and the mom I pay her when I can and buy her food when she helps me at my booths for tradeshows and pay on the value of when I make money she makes money and she is just the best thing that has happened to me. So, you  know, there are always opportunities everywhere. If there is a company you are interested in, evern if they aren’t saying there is, ask them. Tell them why you want to work with them. You would be surprised. They might need your help and don’t know it. They might think you would NOt be an asset but come to find out, you would be the biggest asset, they never you could be :)

What advice would you give others who are interested in your field?

I always tell others to follow their dreams. Even to an extreme point. Something I have learned is that working part time for someone else and trying to live a dream generally does not work. I am not going to say it has never worked because I am sure there are those people out there who it HAS worked for. But Shark Tank and other Investors I have spoke with Start Up City DSM and Business Innovation Zone always tells me and in seminars they have given that you have to work your dream 24/7 to really make it work. Consider that if you are part time that there is someone like me working 24/7 and that is some heavy competition.

Be prepared to work hard. Be prepared to also only do 20% of your dream and the rest marketing, advertising and working hard to be successful. Too many times people think “I’m going to be a Fashion Designer and then I will get to draw, design and make fashions all day.” Not true. I have to schedule time to design, I have to schedule time to draw for fun, and as I said earlier I even schedule time to sew.

Do I love it. Sure. Would I work for anyone else? HELL NO.

Ok, wait, I take that back. Because I WOULD work for someone else if it was in the Fashion Industry doing what I love. If it was the PERFECT JOB, in a PERFECT Career, meaning it was with a company, I have loved and admire and “I” wanted to work there, then HELL YES, I would. (didn’t want to stab myself int eh foot later dont the road) lol

I would rather struggle everyday doing what I love then being miserable doing what I  hate for someone else. (unless what I said)

What advice would you give young people who aren’t sure if they should attend college?

Honestly, I am one of those that doesn’t agree with the College mentality. Earning a degree is just a status quo. Society says we should do it so we do. “College” per say I feel is pointless unless you are going after those fields that require it.

However, “LEARNING, TRAINING, etc” I feel is required. I learned so much from others, small courses, e-books, e-courses, Craftsy, Etsy, Small group sessions, Coaching from a business coach, life learned in from a Life Coach and networking and going to seminars, meetings and conferences. But then again, I am a gleaner. I glean. I can take from others and learn it fast, make it my own and run with it. Not everyone is like that.

How do you advocate for female leaders within the community?

This honestly is a hard one to answer. I think everything here in Des Moines is about cliques. If you are in the right clique you go far. I am sorry if that sounds cynical but sadly I feel it is true. In California and other big sites however I feel the population is so much higher that the society in those areas does not have the time to be focused on the petty things because they are all working on greater things.

I used to have a non profit here in Des Moines Warriors for the Homeless. I tried hard to make a difference. I failed. But I failed successfully. I DID make a difference. But I had to let that part of my life go. I felt a calling to higher and better things and I knew I could still make a difference in another way. And now I have.

By doing what I love I have SHOWN how to be successful, I have shown how to be a positive influence, I have shown how to be passionate, I have allowed my actions to speak louder than my words. I feel THIS message is more important than having a non profit. Now, my business can still help the homeless and others in the community. Now I just do it at the holiday time under my OWN company.

Hopefully sharing my life with you and sharing my life story has inspired and encouraged you.

If you ever want to share your story with me I would be happy to listen.

If you want to join my Be Fabulous workshop email me and I will add you to the list.

“When given the option of being fabulous, why would you choose anything else?”

Until next time,

Xoxo Trisha Trixie

When Given the Option: Choose Fabulous

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When given the option Fabulous

Today is Fabulous Friday and I just wanna say….

My life is not perfect.

I fight with with my man. Not often, but it does happen.

I fight with my kids. In fact my 21 yr old hates me …with a passion.

My body is a mess. Arthritis, neck and back degeneration.Migraines. you name it.

I have suffered heartache like no other.

My business suffered a huge loss last year. Sometimes I really just wanna throw in the towel. Yet I keep trying new things and trying to make it work, some way, some how.

I am planning a wedding and getting married on a shoestring budget and trying to please two families one here in Des Moines, one there in Wisconsin.

I have a saboteur stealing signs off my car, outta my yard, and making nasty comments on my business  blog site to where I have to approve my comments. #HatersGonnaHate

The list could go on as I am sure your list of negatives in your life could be like this as well if not worse….

HOWEVER…

Why do I post happy pictures of myself on Social Media? Why do I post uplifting messages? Why do I post messages thanking others often? Why do I send out kisses and hugs, Xxx’s and OOoo’s? Why? Why do I do these positive things?

Because my life from the time I was born or at least as far as I can remember has been filled with negativity and bad things have happened to me. I used to feel like I was a victim. Now I realize I am an Overcomer.That song by Mandisa Overcomer completely defines me. I went from Fragile to Fabulous. It is my Mantra. I even have an E-Course about it launching next year (but that’s another story for another time)

Somewhere along the way I made a choice. Just as YOU could also make that choice.

#BeNegative or #BePositive?

#BeMiserable or #BeFabulous?

Life is filled with so much hate, so much negativity so much anguish, so much heartache. We live it with every day. We see it on the news, we see it in our newsfeed, we see it on Social Media, we hear it on the radio and even in the work gossip. We can’t escape it, it seems.

We wake up every morning and have a choice. A choice to be happy or sad. A choice to let the pain take us over or conquer the pain. We have a choice to go to work begrudgingly or make the most of it. We have a choice to allow the hater get the best of us or rise above it and be the better person. We have a choice to let the stress of wedding planning be a chore or to enjoy the fun of it. We have a choice to worry about the child who hates us or love the child who loves us and calls us to see if we are ok, even if it only is every now and then. We have a choice to appreciate the friends who are there for us when we need them. We have a choice to thank the team who supports us when we need them. We have a choice to be grateful to the believers who believe in us, even when we are unsure if we believe in ourselves. We have a choice to love the man who loves us for us, the whole of us, when we feel ugly, when we feel less than pretty, when we feel less than ourselves, when we feel great, when we feel sad, when we feel mad and yes even when we are yelling at each other, we have a choice to love that man for loving us at our best and at our worst. We have that choice. We also have a choice, to let the one who broke our heart…go. We have a choice to remember that he is not the man who loves us, now. We have that choice too.

We are a result of the choices we have and will make.

The best part of the Indiana Jones Last Crusade movie I like is that part when the protector says to him “You must Choose, but Choose Wisely”

and when you know you have done right and you have made the right decision you know it in your heart and you feel affirmed. You feel that satisfaction!

You have chosen wisely!

Remember, the CHOICE, is up to you.

Be Fabulous!

Happy FAbulous Friday everyone!

Until Next Time,

xoxo Trisha Trixie Muah!

How Big is Your Brave?

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My Inspiration for this message….Miss Sara B…

How BIG is YOUR Brave?

As I was listening to this song today that line in the song jumped out at me.

“Show me how big your brave is”

Have you ever given that thought or merit when she says that? Has anyone ever asked you that question? HAve you ever pondered how “BIG” your brave is?

You can be amazing
You can be anything you want to be. You can be a lawyer, a teacher, a video game designer, a fashion designer, a contractor, a healer, you could even be a superhero if you wanted to…YOU could be amazing. It is up to you.
You can turn a phrase into a weapon or a drug
Your words are powerful actions. Those words turn into phrases and they can be amazing mantras and sayings and quotes that people cherish and DESIRE to hear and long to hear from like a rug or they can sting and burn and hurt and cause pain so deep, the emotional scar leaves a a permanent mark.
You can be the outcast
You can sit in the corner and whine about why you have no friends, why no one loves you, why you are always in the “friend zone” or…
Or be the backlash of somebody’s lack of love
You could be the one who is unloved, uncared for, mistreated, abused, pained, miserable…or.
Or you can start speaking up

Nothing’s gonna hurt you the way that words do
When they settle ‘neath your skin

Kept on the inside and no sunlight
Sometimes a shadow wins
Be cautious of those words and let your words be your superpower for good not evil. Let the words that fall from your lips be of joy and harmony not pain and anguish not grime and complain or bitterness and sarcasm but love and encouragement.
But I wonder what would happen if you

Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

Speak up, stand out, be strong, stand for something, do something, stand up for yourself, for others, for things you believe in. 

I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave

Everybody’s been there,

Yes we have…
Everybody’s been stared down by the enemy
Some more than others and sadly some more haters than others and even worse, frenemies- those you THINK are your friends only to find out they are hating behind your back and sabotaging you
Fallen for the fear
And done some disappearing,
Bow down to the mighty
Don’t run, just stop holding your tongue

Maybe there’s a way out of the cage where you live

Maybe one of these days you can let the light in
Show me how big your brave is

Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

And since your history of silence
Won’t do you any good,
Did you think it would?
Let your words be anything but empty
Why don’t you tell them the truth?….

Stop filling your brain with the lies you tell yourself. Stop beleiving in those negative thoughts that someone else dumped their negative baggage on you and then forgot to take it with them. Don’t EVER let someone else’s impression of you, thought of you, opinion of you be the deciding factor in  who YOU think and KNOW you are! YOU are FABULOUS! Own it! Be Fabulous!
Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

I just wanna see you be brave…

How BIG is YOUR Brave?
XOXO Trisha Trixie
(Would love to hear your thoughts. Please comment below)
Happy Fabulous Friday. Be Brave!
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